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I have the exact same disproportionate flesh, and every time I catch myself looking at it too hard, I try to just roll my eyes at myself and move on.

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This is honestly the best approach I’ve come upon! Having tried body positivity, neutrality, fuckallity, I feel like this is the one that resonates the most. Such a weight is lifted off, thank you so so much for this.

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Apr 15, 2023Liked by Mikala Jamison

You nailed it for me with this one. At my age (63) every day there is a new "thing" that I observe about my body or face. I could absolutely choose to hate and complain about, which

I do sometimes too. I do believe it is ok to bitch a little bit. Its ok to grieve that 30 year old body I used to have.......which by the way, I was never happy with at that time either.

Your point to then just move on with life is spot on. Maybe my observations motivate me to get out there and exercise more , to put more sunscreen on or take a dip in my bikini even though it doesn't quite fit the same as it once did. Its the circle of life and learning to embrace every season moves us closer to peace and happiness which is my only goal in life these days. I now focus on all the young 30 year olds that tell me they hope they look as good as I do when they are that OLD....LOL.

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Let’s try that again with fewer typos! :)

“You sons of bitches. Off to the pool!” Love this, especially in terms of not just fat or whatever the issue may be (wrinkles! Sags!) but simple unavoidable asymmetries. We are not evolved to find asymmetry beautiful, but there it is. So come on, sloping shoulder and odd right calf that somehow stopped matching the left one, let’s get out for that swim!

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This feels good to me. Especially as I’m aging (40 this year!) and I’ve had 3 kids, my body has changed in ways I obviously had no control over. That’s frustrating to the self-concept—something Iona Italia has written about on her substack.

I love my kids and I don’t regret having them. Does that also mean I must LOVE the fat apron that’s now part of my abdominal situation? I like your stance. It’s just something that is, factually, in my case because of pregnancy and genes. Eh.

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Apr 22, 2023Liked by Mikala Jamison

i love this omg

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I have scoliosis in my lower spine, which means my waist dips in more on one side than the other. My first thought was that maybe you’re not seeing not uneven fat deposits but a reflection of the fact that your legs are two different lengths (most peoples’ are) or a similar structural quirk.

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