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i read this very fast and maybe missed the point how do I get super ripped fast lmk i need a trick a hack anything

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Dec 25, 2023Liked by Mikala Jamison

We cannot ignore people’s beauty because it generates too in people’s psyche as perceivers of those people. And we need to explain why that is so it would be silly not to ever mention it. It’s just a part of the world. However, it would be good to come up some norms of politeness about it, and about how we treat everyone when it comes to their body.

It is foolish to care how another person arrives at their body. Eating large amounts of food and staying extremely slim for life a genetic thing in my family. Keeping weight on was a problem for them. Oh, man the way they would eat. And WHAT they would eat. Unfortunately, I do not share this trait but it is certainly real. My grandmother with a perfect figure even though she could eat an enormous quantity of food and had the thing where she would wake up in the middle of the night and eat. She could eat a whole cake and not remember. You could never leave a cake with Nana overnight. As she got older, my aunt became so thin that she had to buy all her clothing in the children’s section. When my parents took a road trip with her they would load the car with snacks and she would have eaten them all by the time they got to their destination!

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I could stand to lose some weight. I think we all feel that way...until we get older. For women it's different. My wife used to be a size 0 when she was young. Size 0? Is there even such a thing? And then she had kids. She gained weight, and then worked hard to lose it and get herself back down to a size 2. And then she got older. And then menopause hit. I don't compare myself to other peoples' bodies anymore. Now I look like Jonah Hill used to. But who wants to go to the gym everyday? Who doesn't want that extra cookie, or maybe a milk shake? I used to be thin, but I did a lot of drugs when I was young. Now I don't, and I'm not thin anymore. Life goes on...until it doesn't.

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oooooooo this is so so good

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Yes. I've endured all sorts of comments on my body as a "skinny" guy and what really strikes is the tone, people have the most oblivious and entitled attitude about it. Ultimately, you don't know the story behind other people's bodies, so you can't judge - corporal divination is a lie. Thank you for this.

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I have a bad habit of being in my feelings about hot people or people more successful than me, or with more money, etc. I think lately I’ve been better at reflecting on how my feelings are based on my issues and my mindset- not theirs. And it’s my “issue” to work through- not theirs. I’m certainly not good at working through it, but I think awareness of the thought pattern is the first step.

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Did someone ever write an article on how many people would actually never trade their life with Emily or simply don't give a fluk? That would actually be more enlightening.

Or how many people are actually happy for other people's luck and success? I'm trying to be optimistic and think that most people, even in the unlucky side of the spectrum, are super cool about Emily's body and go on with their life like nothing happened.

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deletedDec 20, 2023Liked by Mikala Jamison
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