Thank you for articulating what I couldn't exactly put my finger on about beauty as self worth, and for identifying an alternative way of thinking about it - in dialing the other tracks up. I appreciated and enjoyed this essay. Thank you.
This was so meaningful to read, as someone who has had very similar struggles. I get nervous raising a daughter in the world of her peers, too. But I think your reflections about how to just help her receive said feedback on her body and not equate it with her self worth, is spot on.
So well written! Thank you for this!! I have witnessed all those things growing up with my beautiful and thin-framed mom. There were always a couple kilos too much, the hair not perfect etc. I am still struggling at 35 with getting rid of those inherited views/thoughts and I am so SO scared to pass this on. When I started cycling something new happened: I could appreciate my body for what it can do instead of how it looks. It was such a wild feeling! ❤️ Time to get some more tracks going.. for me and for him/her. :) Thank you
Much of this resonated deeply with me - being the 'fat' child all through high school (even though I wasn't - children are just cruel creatures), being the larger daughter of a tiny, objectively beautiful mother to suddenly being the object of desire, the complicated relationship with food, equating 'thin'ness with worthy of being loved ...
I am childless, so I might not be qualified to comment on your introspections about raising a girl in the current and future social (media) climate - but I do want to thank you from the bottom of my heart, for writing about what I've been feeling all my life. Well done !
You're articulating things I haven't even figured out how to say to my therapist yet, though I long to. Thank you
Thank you for articulating what I couldn't exactly put my finger on about beauty as self worth, and for identifying an alternative way of thinking about it - in dialing the other tracks up. I appreciated and enjoyed this essay. Thank you.
This was so meaningful to read, as someone who has had very similar struggles. I get nervous raising a daughter in the world of her peers, too. But I think your reflections about how to just help her receive said feedback on her body and not equate it with her self worth, is spot on.
So well written! Thank you for this!! I have witnessed all those things growing up with my beautiful and thin-framed mom. There were always a couple kilos too much, the hair not perfect etc. I am still struggling at 35 with getting rid of those inherited views/thoughts and I am so SO scared to pass this on. When I started cycling something new happened: I could appreciate my body for what it can do instead of how it looks. It was such a wild feeling! ❤️ Time to get some more tracks going.. for me and for him/her. :) Thank you
This piece is so raw and I love how you didn’t hold back. You went in as honest as possible
Much of this resonated deeply with me - being the 'fat' child all through high school (even though I wasn't - children are just cruel creatures), being the larger daughter of a tiny, objectively beautiful mother to suddenly being the object of desire, the complicated relationship with food, equating 'thin'ness with worthy of being loved ...
I am childless, so I might not be qualified to comment on your introspections about raising a girl in the current and future social (media) climate - but I do want to thank you from the bottom of my heart, for writing about what I've been feeling all my life. Well done !